SarahDiscovering What Matters to You & Your Co-Travelers…
One of my friends loves watercolour painting. We both recently went on a whirlwind camping trip, and beforehand she asked the organizer about bringing her paints.
“You won’t have time” was the polite but incredulous answer. After all, our schedule was pretty packed.
However, my friend was undeterred. Not only did she pack her paints, but she created an array of art. She painted on the bus, by the waterfront, and whenever we had a few spare minutes. I appreciated her dedication, but it was more than that – she just loved responding to a beautiful landscape through painting.
What does this illustrate?
- We invest time and effort into the activities we value,
- Even group schedules allow for flexibility,
- There is no “right” way to travel.
By the third, I mean that we are free to create our own adventures within time and money constraints. Everyone’s ideal trip looks a bit different, yet despite your own preferences, shopping and popular attractions are no less valid priorities than art galleries or clubbing (for example). Will you get something different out of your trip? Certainly. However, as long as these choices don’t harm local systems, travelers should be able to create itineraries without fear of judgment.
In the age of social media comparison, this is easier said than done. Group travel also constricts the “do what you wish” sentiment. However, honest pre-planning can ensure that everyone feels like their personal “watercolour” activity was valued. What is most important to prioritize? If you’ve always been on the participatory end and have never planned a trip before, it can be daunting to know where to start. Here are a few elements to consider.
(These questions presume you already have timing, destination ideas and co-travellers if applicable.)
What pace do you enjoy?
Preferred travel speed is important to consider. Ask yourself: do you prefer your days mellow or active, and how many places do you plan to visit? Some people’s paradise is relaxing by the beach with a book, and others dream of hitting all the sights and switching cities every day. Of course, there are many shades in between these extremes. Slower travel enables more depth and connection to each place, yet there is something inherently exciting about variety.
If you don’t yet know your preferred pace, try experimenting. Sometimes a combination of relaxing and exploring is also perfect, especially in a varied group.
What do you value?
It’s worth being frank with each other in advance. When trip-planning with a group, I find it ideal if each person suggests at least one activity/site that is important to them. This could be specific (“the chocolate museum”, “find a Christmas present”) or more vague (e.g. seeking an insight into local traditions). When these conversations happen, each person has a voice and is less likely to be disappointed that something crucial was missed.
Do you have any quirky habits?
Perhaps you always take a certain photo at each destination or you take rest stops especially frequently. Great! There is no shame in that. If you’re travelling in a group and it affects the scheduling, it may be useful to mention it in advance. It is also important to have patience and respect for each other’s individuality, especially when a co-traveler discloses something that particularly stresses them out.
How do you feel about “must-sees”?
I often enjoy checking out the top attractions of a place – not only are they popular for a reason, but this enables me to relate to fellow travelers (“have you seen X?”). That said, memories are often made off the beaten path, and less-visited sites are also often less crowded with tourists. It’s worth considering your stance on this, and as with the values question, groups should decide what their own personal “must-see” list includes.
This is just a quick foray into envisioning a trip: stay tuned for more tips on the logistical side. As I share my perspective and things I’ve found helpful, please remember that I’m still learning and growing as a traveler as well. 🙂
So, the next time anyone says that “you won’t have time for that”, consider it carefully. It might be valid, especially if you are submitting to a strict schedule. However, if you’re (co-)planning a trip with friends, why not think outside the box? If participants are empowered to express their wishes and needs, it is easier to avoid disappointment. A similar logic applies for solo travel. Others’ suggestions can enrich your itinerary, but at the end of the day, decide what you’d like to pursue from the experience.
Love reading your blog!